You want to declutter. You are sick of so much mess so you are going to become a minimalist. You dive in and then after about 7 items you hit a wall and turn on Netflix instead. It’s much more satisfying to watch a Marie Kondo episode then to have to push through your own stuff.
Sound familiar? It probably does and you are not alone. Everyone experiences this process to some degree. If they deny it then maybe they need some truth serum.
How do we reconcile while organising? Broad question. Long term success will be when we allow ourselves to accept the process and realise it is key.
Let’s break it down:
Clothes – You may start by having a limited number of hangers – that’s it, your wardrobe goal is for everything to fit tidily on these 50 hangers (example). As you start to go through you find that even though some items aren’t your faves you aren’t ready to let them go. FINE. There is no special place of torment for anyone who likes to hang on to things. As a first step, set them aside – in a box, suitcase or other closet. For now just keep the basics you know you will reach for regularly in your primary closet.
Decluttering is linked to many layers. The second layer will be becoming aware of how you feel in your clothes and what you need to complete certain outfits. Before purchasing missing outfit items, shop in your ‘aside clothes’. Shopping may be a valid option but it will be more focussed and therefore more efficient.
Following layer – In time you will be ready and actually eager to let more items go as you are allowing yourself to be reassured that you don’t need them and really don’t miss them. Re-visit the ‘aside clothes’ and you’ll be surprised at what you are comfortable letting go.
These steps or layers are reflected in any area or category of stuff in our space. Be it sentimental items, books, linens or sports equipment – keep your long term goal at the forefront of your mind. Keep a photo or saying close by to encourage you to keep re-visiting and reconciling yourself to the onion layers that will inevitably grant you more serenity.
Sound familiar? It probably does and you are not alone. Everyone experiences this process to some degree. If they deny it then maybe they need some truth serum.
How do we reconcile while organising? Broad question. Long term success will be when we allow ourselves to accept the process and realise it is key.
Let’s break it down:
Clothes – You may start by having a limited number of hangers – that’s it, your wardrobe goal is for everything to fit tidily on these 50 hangers (example). As you start to go through you find that even though some items aren’t your faves you aren’t ready to let them go. FINE. There is no special place of torment for anyone who likes to hang on to things. As a first step, set them aside – in a box, suitcase or other closet. For now just keep the basics you know you will reach for regularly in your primary closet.
Decluttering is linked to many layers. The second layer will be becoming aware of how you feel in your clothes and what you need to complete certain outfits. Before purchasing missing outfit items, shop in your ‘aside clothes’. Shopping may be a valid option but it will be more focussed and therefore more efficient.
Following layer – In time you will be ready and actually eager to let more items go as you are allowing yourself to be reassured that you don’t need them and really don’t miss them. Re-visit the ‘aside clothes’ and you’ll be surprised at what you are comfortable letting go.
These steps or layers are reflected in any area or category of stuff in our space. Be it sentimental items, books, linens or sports equipment – keep your long term goal at the forefront of your mind. Keep a photo or saying close by to encourage you to keep re-visiting and reconciling yourself to the onion layers that will inevitably grant you more serenity.