Many strive to promote a certain lifestyle which is more in tune with their imagined self rather than the real person they are and the real life they live daily. Why?
Various reasons abound – insecurity, ambition, lack of contentment, the lure of marketing. The common thread through many of these reasons boils down to envy, a negative feeling about where you are at, where you are going and who thinks its good enough.
Let’s explore some manifestations of this particular kind of discontent.
Kitchen – dishes abound. Why, if you are a household of 4 people do you have enough dishes for 40? Why, if you do not drink alcohol or not a great variety do you need 12 glasses for each specific potion? Why, if you only celebrate certain holidays once a year, do you need a whole themed china set for the occasion? Why do you have 3 punch bowls with accessories if entertainment stress prevents you from inviting large groups?
Of course, there are those who do feed 40 regularly and love to enjoy their tipple from the appropriate crystal vessel. Great, then that is part of your lifestyle – enjoy.
Bathroom – body products, make up, perfume etc. Do you like make up? Do you wear a variety or do you stick to your basic go-to items? Same with perfume – do you have a signature scent or do you change according to moods and activities? Do you have enough body wash to last the next 10 years? Is the storage real estate worth the trade?
Again, maybe a vast amount is crucial to you but it’s worth an inner conversation. The lifestyle that was you in the past may no longer be the lifestyle you need to embrace today.
Clothes – do they serve your current lifestyle? Do you attend a lot of corporate events? Do you exercise regularly? Are high heels the bane of your existence or do they make you walk tall? Dress shirts – how many are necessary to carry you through a wash cycle?
There are no right or wrong answers. The key is to ask yourself the questions and answer them truthfully. Be ok with the life you have now as far as your possessions are concerned. Owning your lifestyle of today clears up so much mental clutter. It doesn’t mean it will never evolve, adapt or change. It does mean that you will have the mental space to live your life on purpose.