Hmm, control. Control what exactly? Let's look at the meaning of this word. One definition is to exercise authoritative or dominating influence over. A secondary meaning is to adjust to a requirement, regulate.
Considering these definitions, do you feel like you are in control of your life or do you feel sometimes like it is controlling you? Never thought about it really? Maybe you should. It's really only a worthwhile exercise if you are willing to be very honest with yourself.
There are so many things in our day that we think are etched in stone, unmovable. I have to do this, they are expecting me to do that etc. I'm sure you, like me have a list. Do you ever contemplate what would happen if you occasionally didn't check off that task today? It can be very freeing to just imagine the scenario for a moment. The shocking thing is that most likely nothing untoward will happen. It will just remain as it is and you can do it at another time or not at all.
Every day we prioritize our to do list, get up, get ready, eat, go to work, shop, sleep... In between all these activities we frantically try and fit in every thing else, pick up dry cleaning, go to the bank, make these phone calls, drop this off, do the laundry, blah blah blah. We foresee ourselves feeling very satisfied and smug at the end of the day because we have accomplished so much. Aren't we amazing, look at all we've done! Really? It's quite a come down when in fact, at the end of the day you are just crabby and exhausted. More often than not, devoid of the energy you would like to have for the more important things like sitting at the table to eat dinner, speaking with people instead of watching TV, reading a book (remember those?) mellowing out and unwinding before bed.
We all agree I'm sure, that these are more important things, they are the noble acts that we know in theory will make our lives richer and more civilized. Yet, what is our day to day slog saying about what we really consider to be more important? I don't know the answer to that, that is where your own honest evaluation of your life comes into its own. That is where the second meaning of adjustment is valuable but only if you are the one setting the requirement.
The delicate balance of life that is a constant voyage of adjustment...
Considering these definitions, do you feel like you are in control of your life or do you feel sometimes like it is controlling you? Never thought about it really? Maybe you should. It's really only a worthwhile exercise if you are willing to be very honest with yourself.
There are so many things in our day that we think are etched in stone, unmovable. I have to do this, they are expecting me to do that etc. I'm sure you, like me have a list. Do you ever contemplate what would happen if you occasionally didn't check off that task today? It can be very freeing to just imagine the scenario for a moment. The shocking thing is that most likely nothing untoward will happen. It will just remain as it is and you can do it at another time or not at all.
Every day we prioritize our to do list, get up, get ready, eat, go to work, shop, sleep... In between all these activities we frantically try and fit in every thing else, pick up dry cleaning, go to the bank, make these phone calls, drop this off, do the laundry, blah blah blah. We foresee ourselves feeling very satisfied and smug at the end of the day because we have accomplished so much. Aren't we amazing, look at all we've done! Really? It's quite a come down when in fact, at the end of the day you are just crabby and exhausted. More often than not, devoid of the energy you would like to have for the more important things like sitting at the table to eat dinner, speaking with people instead of watching TV, reading a book (remember those?) mellowing out and unwinding before bed.
We all agree I'm sure, that these are more important things, they are the noble acts that we know in theory will make our lives richer and more civilized. Yet, what is our day to day slog saying about what we really consider to be more important? I don't know the answer to that, that is where your own honest evaluation of your life comes into its own. That is where the second meaning of adjustment is valuable but only if you are the one setting the requirement.
The delicate balance of life that is a constant voyage of adjustment...
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