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Pre-Empt Self -Sabotage

12/4/2016

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​Do you stand in the way of your own success?  Of course not, you may say as if on cue.  Stop and consider your self-talk for a moment.  Often, what is portrayed is not what is.  You may be the type of person that others would imagine they would like to emulate but in your own head that is far from how you feel. 
 
Do you engage in an internal running commentary – negative?  Why did I say that?  That wasn’t funny.  How could I be so stupid?  They must think I’m such a loser.  I should leave now.
 
I have heard these reflections from many.  Mostly, they make me feel sad.  Sad for the constant state of “not good enough” that runs perpetually in the mind.  You may be wondering what, if anything, any of this has to do with de-cluttering.
 
 I will explain the link I see – I would just like to make something clear though, I’m in no way a counsellor, therapist etc.  These are merely my own musings. 
 
The same pattern of self sabotage emerges when I speak and work with clients who feel they have somehow failed at life and the clutter, disarray and overwhelm is proof of that failure.  It’s screaming at them constantly to make sure they understand that they are too far gone, they suck, this must be the worst house I’ve ever seen, how could they have let it get to this level and on and on. 
 
Now is the time for thought stop.  Thought stop is just that – stop your thought and tell yourself out loud if it helps – to stop thinking this way and then focus on a positive thought about you.  Ex. I had the guts to ask for help, I chose to make a change, I am not a loser, I’m not the only one who has become inundated with stuff, I’m not the only one who is overwhelmed, I’m not a bad person because my space is a mess,  I am going to help myself, I do count. 
 
There are many circumstances throughout the course of our lives that we may only have a minimal amount of control over.  Basic clutter, too much stuff and lack of organisation are things we do have ultimate control over.  Rise to your true self, do what you need to do – for you.
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