Really? Show me the money. The same principle applies to housing as it does to how you treat loved ones, your work ethic, your investment in your community etc. Your affirmations are proven by your actions.
If someone were a bug on the wall in your abode would they be struck by the extent to which you appreciate your shelter?
This is not to be considered on a judgement level. Judgement, in my opinion, in this context is paralysing and therefore redundant. Let’s focus instead on forging ahead for what will improve our state of mind, attitude, confidence and self-esteem and by extension our nearest and dearest.
If our primary shelter from the outside world, negativity, stress, anything unpleasant is in disarray or suffering from extreme disrespect then what message is really at the fore? If we actually do not have a place of sanctuary that is the pinnacle of love that welcomes us at the end of the day then we are telling ourselves steadily that we don’t deserve it. Think about that. Is that what you work for? Is that what you teach your children? Is that how you love yourself?
These questions, if answered honestly will give you the answers you need to listen to. Your home – whatever form that takes, should welcome you, make you feel safe, give you refuge, calm, mental space, room to grow, discover your talents, nurture your family, make you happy to be there. If it does not for various reasons then the onus is on you to give yourself the gift of ‘shelter.’