This is a recurring scenario that I encounter with clients who then call me to help them with their unrealistic and incredibly damaging expectations.
It’s great if you decide you would like to reduce or organise your possessions. That is a positive and soul strengthening pursuit. However, as with everything – the success lies in the planning.
I am talking about mental planning here. Deciding to completely revamp your lifestyle in a weekend – Reasonable? Sustainable? Kind?
Reasonable – it is a rare circumstance that allows you to dedicate one complete weekend to decluttering or organising unless it’s an extreme situation. It’s also more than likely that one weekend will not get you through your entire home.
Start with a manageable time frame and project. Depending on your life right now maybe 1 hour is your max. Fine. Take that hour and choose a task that can be completed within that window. End. Repeat at another time with the same guidelines.
Sustainable – so you get through the mammoth task of decluttering and organising a given space, how long will it last? Life is for the living so, of course every space requires tweaking but as well as that it demands setting yourself up for success. Does the end result belong in a magazine photo shoot (which isn’t real life, as you know) which in my experience usually lasts approx less than a week or is it a set up that works with your life daily?
Kind – are you being kind to yourself with the process you are imposing on yourself? Is your timeline another stress you’ve just added to the already existing stressors in your life? If your best friend was doing this would you point out to them that perhaps they are being too hard on themselves? Try treating yourself like you would your bestie.
Recap – if you indulge in a mental high of transformation that really only works on TV then you will be discouraged and do yourself harm. Take the process and go through it with the desire to learn and create a habit of managing your space. Life comes in layers and managing our space is the same. One layer at a time.
I wish you success!